Friday, 21 February 2020

The A&F Podcast - Episode 81 - Scott & Al talk #YouCanAdopt, Marketing and #InfoBanter

This week we take a moment in the busy schedule to reflect on the #YouCanAdopt marketing campaign and air a few thoughts on that. We also chat through a few thought on some upcoming stuff that we're up too. We don't want to slip into infomercials so we'll not mention it again but we're busy doing lots starting with the Adoption East Midlands Regional Adoption Agency's first annual conference. From the 1st March it's open to all adopters from beyond the RAA catchment so check it out here and come if you can.




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Friday, 14 February 2020

A&F Podcast Ep 80 - #LGBTHistoryMonth Satwinder Sandhu on Social Work Process

In this episode Scott has a chat with Satwinder on his experience and perspective of a range of interesting and important issues that social care has faces with the change in legislation in the mid 2000's. It is a really interesting discussion in relation to the challenges faced by the LGBT community as they navigated what was a process built around the assessment of heterosexual couples and the questions that this posed for social workers. Sat raises bigger questions in relation to applicants showing authentic selves and asking what is an acceptable lifestyle for any adoption applicant.




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Friday, 7 February 2020

The Adoption & Fostering Podcast Conversations - Bea #LGBTHistoryMonth

In what is #LGBTHistoryMonth we continue to focus on LGBT adoption and fostering. This week we talk with gay foster carer, Bea.


Bea, along with her partner, have been fostering for 2 years, and now have a longer term placement. Bea explains some of the process to becoming a foster carer in recent times, and it felt rather a standard assessment process, that anyone can relate to. Bea also shares some useful thoughts about selecting an agency, whether you are a same sex female couple or not.

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Friday, 31 January 2020

Policing Childhood Challenging Violent and Aggressive Behaviour April 2020

Back in 2015 in a fit of pique in blurted out a snippy frustrated blog about our experience of trying to get some real world practical help from our local post adoption support team for us as a family as we tried to parent a child that sometimes struggled to contain their inner world. It would spill in to challenging behaviour and sometimes violence.



We were lost, we wanted help, we didn't get it.

The blog snowballed (You can read it here) and within minutes messages and comments from families poured in and kept coming for the days the followed.  People sharing their experiences, their fears and more often than not their frustration at the lack of help and awareness from professionals. It was humbling and shocking in equal measure and I just kept talking, to the DfE, to social workers and to other adoptive parents. As I've talked I see that his is not an 'adoption' issue but an issue that impact on all families of all type and variety but there are themes and patterns.

From the early days of me seeing it as an adoption issue the scale and nature of the challenges faced beyond this community dwarf my initial concerns. Special guardians, kinship care, domestic violence (in all it's connotations) early adversity and trauma, ASD, ADHD, LD all play into children's perceptions of themselves, the world they live in and the people in it and consequently their capacity and ability to regulate and control their behaviour. The need is often hidden behind adult shame and fear of blame, isolation, anxiety and fear of professional's views.

Our family story has inevitably moved on but I never thought an angry blog would set me on a journey that has led me to meet some amazing professionals and parents/carers as well as opportunities not only in the UK but beyond. More importantly it connected me with Dr Wendy Thorley who helped me release a survey then wrote up the findings in an array of places (see here) I may be boring you now so I'll cut to it.

A few years ago I spoke at a thing and that led to the Dr and I chatting to a few police officers who wanted to do more and help. We made some plans and in April this year we're looking to share the findings of almost a years police call outs to homes where adults have called 999 because they're frightened of their children's behaviour and need help. It feels like a step change for me and we're looking at a range of issues with those that work at the sharp end as well as looking at the experience of those living this life.

Things are changing, I see more light being shone on this issue than ever before and the shame and isolation are being driven back, options and support for families is more available than ever. You may not be able to come to this event but perhaps you could share the flyer and get the right people there. If you want to come you can book here there are also plans afoot to hold a similar conference in North London in the early summer.

Many thanks.


Adoption & Fostering Podcast - LGBT History Month with Scott & Tris

It’s LGBT history months so we thought we’d add our bit and Al has a chat with Scott and his husband Tris about their perspectives and experience of being amongst the cohort of adoptive same sex couples in the mid 2000s. They straddle a time before that was a possibility and we discuss their journey as well as some of their positive as well as less positive experiences being adoptive parents. We also chat about the implications for them as a family as they encounter and visit other cultures and countries and precautions they take to keep the children and themselves safe.


We start with a chat about the BT Halo advert, the language used and the following twitter storm and response from different parts of the adoption community.

Finally, we reveal that we’re chairing a RAA’s first year anniversary conference on the 4th April for Adoption East Midlands, until the end of Feb its open to families from that area, after that anyone can attend if there’s space. BOOK HERE The conference is going to cover a range of issues that are ever present including contact, developing children’s resilience and adopter resilience. There will also be discussion in relation to school support and peer mentors within the adoption community. Take a look here and if you’re free then we’d love to see you  as well as the night before when we’re having the Adoption and Fostering Podcast Pub Quiz (details to follow).


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Sunday, 26 January 2020

Ep 8 Let's Talk About......Developing your emotional intelligence

In an experiment Ruth gets Al to complete an EQ questionnaire and then show how that can be used as a tool for helping people develop their emotional intelligence.


We hope you find the Podcast interesting and if you want to ask questions or suggest topics please DM us on our Twitter feed here or email CELandT@Celandt.org
The hosts are Ruth Whiteside ( @RuthCoaching ), a teacher and trainer with 20 years experience, and Al Coates MBE ( @Mr_Al_Coates ), a social worker and trainer, and they will discuss specific topics as well as interview guests and practitioners across the podcasts. They're both Directors of CEL&T and you can find out more about them here.


Friday, 24 January 2020

The A&F Podcast Adoptee Conversations - Fran

This week we speak to Fran Proctor an adult adoptee. It comes with a warning it's a hard story to hear & one that challenges many views. Fran is open and honest in sharing her experience and it provokes difficult questions that are struggled to be answered in easily. Of course, we'd recommend caution as this contains some especially difficult issues that some listeners may find upsetting.
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Friday, 17 January 2020

The A&F Podcast Episode 78 - Live Podcast, Recruitment and a new Government

In what can only be described as an experiment we attempted a half live podcast with us streaming on FB for the first half of this podcast and answering various questions that came up. You can decide on how coherent it was! We answered a range of questions including issues around training in schools, attachment and working with professionals. Some familiar faces chipped in so it was rather interesting!

After that had a chat about some of the fostering and adoption recruitment missteps that have been in the media #DropTheMop as well as the new governments focus on adoption and a meeting with the minster. It was prior to the recent letter sent by the children's minister so we don't reflect on that only on what we knew at the time.

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Sunday, 12 January 2020

Ep 7. Lets Talk About...Isolation Booths

This is the start of the winter term and we're going to start putting the podcast out once every other week, six at a time to coincide with the academic term.

Isolation booths remains a contentious issue with a highly charged discussion to be found online and amongst many parents. We try to consider all this with no attempt to come to a solution but to unpick some of the issues that float around the debate as well as drawing on some personal and professional experience.




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The hosts are Ruth Whiteside ( @RuthCoaching ), a teacher and trainer with 20 years experience, and Al Coates MBE ( @Mr_Al_Coates ), a social worker and trainer, and they will discuss specific topics as well as interview guests and practitioners across the podcasts. They're both Directors of CEL&T and you can find out more about them here.


Friday, 10 January 2020

Podcast Special - Adoption UK Scotland's FASD Hub

Hello, in what was a rather unusual turn of events we were asked to showcase through the medium of Podcasting the work that the FASD Hub Scotland do. We aren’t always that helpful but the work that the Hub does is progressive and offers an excellent practice model and as such we were more than happy to chat to the team. The Hub is linked to Adoption UK Scotland’s work however the advice and some of the resources available through the website are helpful and of use to families regardless.
 In the podcast Aily Brown the FASD lead co hosts with Scott and they introduce the Hub and the work that is undertaken. Scott also takes time to speak to a few professional and parents(Jessica, Judith and Jen) that have roles in the hub as well as a parent (Gemma) that has received support through the services that the Hub provides.





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Friday, 3 January 2020

The A&F Podcast Episode 77 - New Year News Round Up

This week we took the opportunity to have a brief round up on the year as well as consider some of the interesting news articles that had come up in the last few weeks of the year. We chat about the reduction in the adoption statistics as well as the high profile discrimination case won by an adoptive couple against a local authority. The rather incendiary tweet in relation to the financial benefits to local authorities/government was also discussed with no controversy courted here!



We also consider our re branding and hopefully that's all been done with this episode.
As always thank you for listening, we think it's been a good year for podcasting with a whole raft of interesting guests, co hosts and individuals who've been generous with their stories and experience. Thank you.

If you are feeling warm and fluffy a review wherever you download the podcast would be much appreciated and bolster our delicate egos. Again, many thanks to all who have done that already.
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