Saturday, 28 March 2020

The A&F Podcast Ep84 - All things lockdown and interview Rosie the Adoption Social Worker

With chaos and uncertainty abounding the normal grasp on reality and all things normal has well and truly slipped out of the back door and left us all adrift. So, to add our full peneth to the mix we've cast aside the scheduled podcasts on all things tricky and refocused ourselves on the lived reality now.


To that end Al has chatted to Rosie the Adoption Social Worker, she shares her views and thoughts on the challenges that the current situation has thrown up for adoptive families and the SWer no less. This is part one with Rosie as we also talk about her day job supporting adoptive adults connect with their birth families and walking through that process with them.

Scott and Al also unpack some of the challenges thrown up this week indulge in some distracting banter as well as discuss Scott's crocodile hands and Al's selfish hoarding tendencies.

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Saturday, 21 March 2020

The A&F Podcast Episode 83 - An interview with Special Guardians and Adopters Together

In this episode of the adoption and fostering podcast we speak to Sylvia Schroer who is the chair of the Special Guardians and Adopters Together (SGandT) campaigning organisation.
 We consider some of the issues that the organization campaign about specifically and discussed the challenges that's many families face as they try to access support in difficult situations as well as the accusations that can often be levelled at parents and carers. We also discuss the difficulty in raising the issues, lack of accurate data and the changing nature of adoption and kinship care/special guardianship.


You can go to their SGandT's website here and see some of the research that Sylvia mentions in the interview.
Scott and I keep the banter down to the bear minimum, though we do get drawn onto the rocks of name calling on twitter and if you listen to the very very end there may be a child hygiene related retching incident.


We recorded earlier in the week so all the latest Corvid-19 developments aren't commented on.
Stay well y'all.


Saturday, 14 March 2020

Adoption & Fostering Podcast - Conversations: Clarissa

In this episode Clarissa shares her story of growing up in challenging circumstances, becoming a mother and then having her child removed, then adopted, by children’s social care professionals.
Clarissa is now a relational/parent activist and works to support other parents the have similar experiences and social care involvement. This is a really honest account and Clarissa doesn’t shy away from some very challenging experiences, events and situations that she was part of.



Consequently, this is a hard listen and contains an honest account that some listeners may find upsetting, so please be wise and listen with caution.
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Saturday, 7 March 2020

Adoption & Fostering Podcast Episode 82 - Scott & Al chat to Solicitor Sarah Brown

In this episode we chat to solicitor Sarah Brown from Ridley Hall Solicitors who specialises in all legal matters pertaining to adoption. We chat in relation to the reasons people resort to legal representation, such as challenging support plans or amending wills to name a couple. We take a little time before the interview to consider chat and set the interview up so bear with us.


We also discuss Andrew Christie stepping down from the Adoption & Special Guardianship Leadership Board and argue over which one of us should apply as well as the issues that we look to consider in over the next few months on the podcast, mainly when things don't go as expected.
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Saturday, 29 February 2020

The Adoption and Fostering Podcast: Conversations - Andrew

In this episode Andrew shares his experience as an adoptive parent of a child with complex medical needs, with his wife they chose to adopt rather than becoming parents through traditional routes. Andrew discusses a long preparation and approval process and some of the specific challenges that they have all faced.


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Friday, 28 February 2020

Where to start

Friend: 'Hi, I know we've not spoke in a while but we're thinking of adopting and thought we'd speak to you............what do you think?'

Me: 'Oh, well where to start'

It's a question that I don't get asked every day but it comes around not too infrequently. I try to offer balance, I try to find out why, I try to present the big picture and the small picture, I try to wrap it up in language that makes sense. I try to summarise my last 20 years in an honest and meaningful reply.

I think it sounds like a scattergun gallop through a thousand thoughts tumbling our of my mouth at a hundred miles an hour, I'm not sure I'm the right person to answer this question.

#YouCanAdopt, yes you can but.......... My days of being an apologist for adoption are over.

I think my answer is laced with a huge dollop of pragmatism, adoption has worked for me, adoption has kind of worked for some of my children. I say kind of because it's offered them something that the other forms of permanency could not and can not offer. It's a sliding scale and it also comes with a knowledge that their views may change but they don't get to re write history or have a say.

I've the nonsensical twitter argument over if adoption is trauma fizzing around trauma still rattling around my head and that's not helping at all. I try to reflect that.
The answer to my friend is complicated and ends up with me asking them to visit specific websites, read this book, listen to this story, think differently. More like a stress test on how serious they are and how this is a landscape in transition. You don't want to be on the wrong bus when it leaves town so to say.


When I record the podcast's with adopters I often ask 'would you adopt again' and all bar one said yes. Maybe that's the wrong question to the wrong person.

The question seems more complicated now. As well as 'would' there's a 'should' and the best I seem to have now is.......it's complicated.

Again more questions than answers.



Saturday, 22 February 2020

The A&F Podcast - Episode 81 - Scott & Al talk #YouCanAdopt, Marketing and #InfoBanter

This week we take a moment in the busy schedule to reflect on the #YouCanAdopt marketing campaign and air a few thoughts on that. We also chat through a few thought on some upcoming stuff that we're up too. We don't want to slip into infomercials so we'll not mention it again but we're busy doing lots starting with the Adoption East Midlands Regional Adoption Agency's first annual conference. From the 1st March it's open to all adopters from beyond the RAA catchment so check it out here and come if you can.




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